Why Cant it Just Be Simple??

So Real Talk Uncensored last night sparked this Blog on today.

Im wondering why do things have to be so difficult between our sexes?? Why all we do is just point the finger yet no one trys to figure out a solution? Why people say they become bored in their relationships??

Well I'll answer the last one 1st, alotta times people become bored in their relationships because mainly we don't date our "friend", if you become a friend with this person 1st you can know the in's and outs of that person. you can never be bored spending time with your friend, i don't care what you or how you look at it, your always entertained when ur spending time with ur friend. because you enjoy each others company, enjoy that persons conversation, hell you can just be sitting around the house checking each other and your enjoying your self. that relationship can never go boring.

Which brings me to how people make a relationship soooooo difficult because honestly its not that hard. We MAKE it hard.
#1. (Men/Women) Quit dating people your incompatible with yet trying to MAKE it work, because guess what ITS NOT GONNA WORK!!!!! and you've just wasted some weeks and months outta your life. Ive noticed some women fear the idea of rejection from a guy that they like, yet she's not his type or their not compatible yet since she likes him, she gonna make it work any ways, but will get mad at him when it doesn't work or says that he wasn't trying hard enough, if you don't like him for himself then guess what your not COMPATIBLE and let it go, and vise versa. Ex: Dont date a person that's VERY outgoing and your a homebody, all ur gonna do is get into arguments about wanting the other to stay at home more, it will seem cool at 1st because that person will seem exciting but if your a homebody it will eventually get tiring for you real quick. Cause every person that you like or attracted to isnt for you, once you accept that fact then your transition wont be as hard, bitter or angry.

#2: (Women) Dont talk to your man as you would ur girlfriends, a mans attention span isnt THAT long. why do you think men like action movies, its steadily catching our attention. When you hear men talk its pretty much straight to point and alotta times short convos, where as when women talk there is always the who, what, when, where, why and for how long when you all have convo's and they be for hours on end about that one subject. alotta times the guy just wants you to get to the point, its as simple as that.

#3 (Men/Women) Quit pointing the finger at the other once they bring something up about you, you make ur self look childish. Ex: GUY: "hey baby i dont like it when you do blah blah blah", Women: "Well you be doing so and so and i dont like that". All that sounds like is "well you do it too" what kids bicker about all the time, yet we say we adults. if a person brings something to ur attention HEAR that person out and LISTEN and discuss it, dont attack that person for bring something up and wanting to talk to you about it, because that person will NEVER come talk to you about anything again. especially if its about you. Once again we say we adults, then carry ur self as such, especially when its a time to be serious.

#4: (Women) Quit trying to rush into things soooo quick, and learn the idea of going with the flow of things, cause how men think is how can i jump into a relationship and i don't know if i like you or not. he don't even know if your his type to be relationship material for HIM.


Whats funny is that when ya'll will bring up well he can jump into sex w/o knowing her, but men look at sex totally different that women do. we value you our hearts more than our d**k, women hold value on her cooter, and get emotional from the act of sex at times, per the reason why alot of women try and hold out on having sex with a guy, cause you hold ur value in that. If you valued you hearts MORE you wouldnt be so quick to jump into a relationship to get it hurt again. which also leads to the reason why alot of woemn be stuck in relationships with dudes that are not good in the bed. If that is something that you like to do with ur mate then you may wanna find that out in the beginning. cause me, i'll leave a female alone if she cant kiss

Someone told me "yall know yall dont want a relationship with a woman u got easily", yet it has nothing to do with her being easy, to me it shows that she know what she wants and aint with all the games to get it. straight forward.

Men are simple, we dont like challenges too much especially when it comes to our relationships. Too challenging ='s difficult which honestly goes both ways on that one. women like men that is challenging tho, men do not and that is where yall go wrong at, cause you want to try and CHANGE him or MOLD him into something that you want. when ur not accepting him for who he is or his flaws. BTW if you talk to a dude that thinks less of you cause he got you "easily" is prolly just as more difficult than you

ya'll can be strong w/o being weak.

if you can get a man to be comfortable around you, he is all urs. cause that is all we want someone he can be comfortable around and be himself, someone he can come around to get away from the hectic day to day and if you BOTH can do that for each other then you will NEVER really have an issue. that is why alot of men want to go with the flow, that takes away the pressure, and he can see if he can see himself with you, if he can be himself, if ur relaxing to be around, if you gel with him. when you have NO EXPECTATIONS of each other you both will see the real person they are.

alotta women know tho that they fucked up(emotionally), and hate the idea that a guy they like may not like them for who they REALLY are if they are themselves. some women have been different people for so long she dont even know who she is any more. i realized that issue when i'd tell a woman that i just wanted her to be herself and i can decide from there if you are someone that i want to be with or not, they acted like i was crazy or something.

Women hold on to not doing stuff for a man because you don't wanna feel like your giving up something like cooking for him or doing nice things for him. when really a man is trying to see if that's just your nature or if its all an act. Alotta times i hate to say it but ya'll make it complicated like telling urself, "Im not gonna cook for this nigga til he take me on 3 dates", or "im not gonna ask him out til he ask me first", etc, etc.

Honestly most men don't know what we want, but we do know what we don't want.

If a man see that you NATURALLY are a certain way with things, he then looks at you a certain way, like this is JUST who she is. we don't want a woman that is just putting on to just impress us or trying to hook us then you flip back to Bonshika after you get us. Do things cause that is just who YOU are naturally, men arent as dumb as you may think we are.

We all need to put fear behind us, and just be ourselves. we all at times are our worst enemy.
why be fearful of being urself cause if being ur self didn't work out with that guy/girl then, that person wasn't for you, and if you stayed around it would NEVER be appreciated. are you really giving so much or just giving ur self #thinkaboutit