The Splinter

Love, Hope...... it is the quintessential human dillusion simultaneously the source of our greatest strengths and our greatest weakness

the decision that we have to and should make shouldnt be the one based from our heart and emotion(which FEELS difficult), but the one that first comes to mind cause usually that is the best decision for you. Cause at times our heart will get you to think of the other person and their feelings when you should also heart(love) yourself and think of your feelings and emotions first and foremost.......... the heart will deceive you everytime cause it knows not what it wants (how can it know it doesn't think). the heart is like a splinter in your mind that just drives it crazy. it is the learning to get the heart and mind to coexist with each other and the heart trusting and believing in the minds decision, when it doesn't is where 2nd guessing will always come into play because they cant coexist and the heart doesn't trust the mind .

they both have a common goal, seemingly looking out for you and your well being, one just isnt as rational as the other

Eyes Wide Shut.....Unlearn

Everyone wants to be accepted by the world in some form or fashion, yet we do not notice and realize that that same world is also what makes us feel insecure, fat, crazy, etc. It programs us into WHAT to feel, instead of knowing for yourself what you really feel about something. we call people crazy if their actions and thoughts are different from the opposition. when someone does something out of the ordinary then we automatically think they on drugs or whatever, when in actuality they are embracing their own individuality.

Alot of us are afraid of being are own individuals, for fear we are not looked at as being cool. what we don't realize tho is that in being yourself you seem to attract those who have the same likeness as your self instead of you becoming something that you are not only to find out later that it is driving you crazy to pretend just to fit in. what also seems amazing to me is that the same people that you try to impress, when you are your self they end up respecting you more and admire you for being comfortable in your skin.

Its crazy that we feel weird, or something is wrong with us because we don't follow what the rest of the crowd is doing, but ask yourself who is crazier, those that can stand out by themselves or ones that have to be amongst the crowd................. sometimes fitting in doesn't always fit.

i guess you can kinda interpret the movie the Matrix. which there are alot of messages in that movie by the way, but one seems to stand out which is trying to deprogram your mind what the world has spoon fed you for so long. like what is real, what is fake, what is love, etc. you have to be unafraid to open your mind (detach from the matrix) and think on your own; for yourself.

"the matrix is a system, that system is your enemy......... you have to understand that most ppl are not ready to be unplugged, and many are so hopelessly dependant upon this system that they will fight to protect"........ even they tho they may not know what it is exactly they are protecting.......

like the lady in the red dress scene "the lady in red" is a DISTRACTION "she" is anyone and anything distracting, or preventing you from seeing the true reality. "she" is an obstacle that one must over come and ignore in order to be awakened (Distractions: Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Reality Tv, News Media, etc)........... these diversions may and can come in many forms money, status, personality, sex, girls, cars and the one that covers them all VANITY.........and one if not all will eventually be our downfall and failure

the world(matrix) cant tell you who you are, only you subject yourself to institutionalized control eventually once you open your mind only you can gain control.

#WakeUp.......

POV

i think what most ppl forget is that honesty is a form of a persons opinion, if you ask for honesty then that is what you get their honest opinion or POV, just b/c it may oppose what others may have told you doesnt mean that person is a hater or lying......... and if ur not able to grasp an opinion outside of ur own then you need to quiting asking for people's pov  and continue entertaining beautiful lies......... i mean apparently that is what you WANNA hear right??

Ex: if you have 30 ppl say you look fine as hell in a certain outfit, and i come along and say i dont like it or you look better in something else, my honest opinion is that i dont think you look that hot in that outfit, HATER?? REALLY?? none by far....... whose to say that the 30 ppl before me wasnt just adding coal to ur self esteem train to keep from telling you what they honestly thought, ima tell you want you NEED to hear, they'll tell you what you WANT to hear :)

Sex before marriage

As i have gotten older I now understand the reasoning behind the no sex before marriage, because technically if you've never had something in particular before you have nothing to compare it too. Now once you have had sex and especially if it was good and a enjoyable experience, more than likely it will leave a lasting impression on you, so now you have something to compare to and you know what you like out of it.

Now, I do understand that you cant build your life around it, but what i don't get is when people (alot of times women) downplay its importance. Most men at times don't care about all the mental connecting and talking like women do, but we know of its importance to women so we deal with it. Sex is honestly one of the top 5 important things to a man........ not saying it is the ONLY thing but it is ranked in the top 5 and should be recognized by women.

Honestly waiting would be very difficult and more than likely not in a guys plans especially if he's already had it before. I mean don't you have to try before you buy, in most mens eyes why should that be any different?? If I get along with someone and it seems to be going great and yet the sex is unfortunately wack, eventually I am still gonna want somebody else because I am not fulfilled totally, and if that act is ranked in my top 5 of things that somewhat matter to me, then most definitely there will be a problem.

As i said before if your a virgin and never experienced the act before and dont know any better then it wouldnt be a problem, but if the freaks have turned you out and have some experience under your belt then there is where the problem begins to lay. So he/she gotta put it down and unfortunately if they cant/wont/dont, then you will begin your search to find someone that will, cause altho we say it doesnt matter to keep from seeming shallow i guess, cause deep down............... it does, we cant escape the reality of it

Hoes to Housewifes/Husbands

Cant turn a hoe into a housewife, yet we'd like our wife or g/f to be freaky with us...... which would mean she had to be hoe-ish at some point. Men are and have been hoes yet we end up being married. so i don't see how a dude can say or utter those words. we are past around more than women, yet would be bothered by a woman's past. really?? in this world I've begun to realize that we are ALL 2nd handers (ie: oral sex), and that somebodies wife/husband use to be someones junt......... to judge someone of their past is VERY hypocritical ESPECIALLY if your lifestyle was similar.

Now i can understand if the person is STILL living and being a hoe and then expect them to change, yea that's just plain silly. BUT but if they were hoe-ish in their past sounds to me she/he is a seasoned vet to me. #Experience. Yet people always complain about how unsexy, unfulfilled they are when it comes to sex, or wants their mate to be freaky with them and wind up finding (cheating) something they seem to despise which is that hoe-ish type person.

most men like and/or love hoes, per the reason why men love porn. we like nasty shit, if your mate was this way the world would probably be a better place, so to say you don't want to turn a hoe to a housewife sounds funny to me........ cause we all like a woman to have at least a tad bit hoe in her. per the saying "a lady in the streets and freak in the bed"

who are we to judge someone and yet don't want others to judge us?? As long as he/she is"hoe-ish" for you what seems to be the problem #IJS

Sense of Entitlement: The Independent Woman

I am totally confused as to this sense of entitlement that women have nowadays. i mean alot of women(not all) have this sense that men should be happy to share the air that you breath, and why because you are YOU?? i mean just like men come a dime a dozen so do women. so what makes you so special, whats makes you any different, what do you bring to the table?? i sit back and watch and for the most part all i see is that the worth is put in your box. all that is brought to the table is "the box" and a smile, and the self-proclaimed title that your a good woman. O_0

Ive sat back and noticed that alot of women bring their phD's, Masters, and other degrees to table, as if you want a pat on the back for you accomplishments........... for what? for actually DOING something with your life, oh i thought that is what we are all suppose to do as adults. oh ok. but we get it, we see it, but it doesn't require a constant pat on the back. because after all that is said and done and we look past those accomplishments then what, yes you're accomplished in the working world, but but the world outside of that is what?? being seen on the scene?? yet your real accomplishment that you want is a successful relationship and marriage. and yet you dont offer anything for it. These same "accomplished" women dont have any conversation, dont have a personality, Most dont know how to really cook (unless its a Viola, TGIFriday, frozen dinner meals), dont really wash dishes, clean the home, etc...... whats also crazy is that I KNOW dudes that bring just about everything to the table (btw men dont really look at degrees as an accomplishment for a relationship, like i said its good to have but it doesnt make us wanna jump on board just because) BUT when we have a preference or some sorta expectation of you of what we like and want in a woman then its something wrong with us, because apparently your perfect for any and every dude just the way you are......... yet once again tho you haven't shown anything for us to even see that.

you all want the dude to take you on fancy dinner dates, buying flowers, and etc. but tell me this what exactly does that prove, and better yet if those are things that you really like in a relationship 1) why you not still with that dude and 2) how is that working out for you??

Any man can spend money to impress you but after that then what?? whats crazy is that the man isn't just really impressing you but your friends of whom you go and brag to, because it would seem again that you like the image and making your girlfriends envious.

in the end what exactly do you do for him, do you pay attention to him enough that you can get him something just because or a birthday gift that you KNOW he will like.......... and NO we are not talking about something that YOU would like for him!!!!! women have been and can be so engrossed in themselves that you don't even pay your dude any attention. yet will scream from the rafters that we don't. have you ever given your dude a gift and you never see it anymore, its because he didn't like it, and out of respect didn't say anything negative to hurt your feelings, sorry to say.

Then when you do get a man you down him, belittle him, show no respect because he hasn't accomplished the same as you, whats crazy is that men don't value those same things as accomplishments, they are nice to have, but they shouldn't make you who you are.

As i read somewhere your independence is gone lead you to loneliness.

Women have become sooooo independent that you forgot your role and place in the man woman relationship.

Ask yourself what REAL man is gone stick around with a woman who acts as if she don't need or want him. "i don't need a man for nothing"

Just as a woman likes to feel wanted and needed so do men, just as women need to feel supported so do men. and not that support us in our face and then talk about us behind our backs........ cause trust us it gets back to us.

And if you don't support and respect this man, why are you even with him?? sounds like to me you just like the IMAGE of being in a relationship despite the fact you know your wasting your time, and despise being alone.

women all the time scream they are old fashion, and have old fashion values, yet in that same breath yell they are independent(your version of independence). but you cant have both. old fashion women knew their place and roles, supported their men and took care of home and the new age women does not........... in actuality you want to wear the pants and letting your nuts hang.

there is nothing wrong with being independant, it mainly becomes a problem tho when you have been so involved in your career that you treat your relationships as if its a business or job, becoming disrespectful, and treating your man as less than because he may not be on your financial level. Perfect example I can think of is the role that Sanaa Lathan played in the movie "A Family that Preys". There is nothing better in this world than to have a partner that supports and respects you.

Social Media the New Dumb(down) ???

So this is sparked cause i think i am out growing F/B, i think I'm going back to simplifying my life from the hysteria. I will admit there is some informative things and people on these sites but the other 80% is trash, and another outlet to keep up mess and distractions. but now lemme dig in.

i been wondering what have people been doing before f/b and twitter became a craze. when i go out now and look around i notice and see grown ass fucking people (27-37) talking about whats going on on facebook or twitter. like i can see you being on it to past time while your at work or maybe on it while a special episode on tv, or a new movie or basketball game is on. BUT when your out amongst friends and the whole time your out ya'll are talking about what someone had just posted or tweeted and your face is in the phone the whole time........... honestly it looks and sounds childish/high school-ish

i mean once i log out of facebook i don't wanna be told what someone said on on f/b. cause facebook isn't my life, and honestly I don't care, that shit is for entertainment. and it seems people nowadays cant separate the two. i see people that dont read anymore, they dont get things accomplished, their just on Facebook/Twitter, and it has overwhelmed their whole lives. Think about it whats the first thing you do when you wake up in the mornings now. look at your phone and check F/B?? Exactly!!

i had a discussion with a person who started to pay attention to it also and noticed that when she was out, she looked around and all her friends were ALL on the phone and all they talked about the whole time was facebook. like seriously??........... my question i will have to ask is do people not have REAL lives anymore?? can we not have real conversations?? how can you even enjoy yourselves when your out with friends when all your doing is reading the next status or tweet, are we afraid to face the realities of our own lives?? like with people nowadays if it isn't posted on facebook or twitter then you apparently missed the memo and will be lost in translation. is this social network thing having people hide their personalities behind the pc and the smartphone??

what happened to friends going out for drinks and talking about your day or the chic or dude that you just met?? the stresses of your day, family, friends, etc?? is this the new way to have fun?? cause honestly if you actually think about it and look around its quite boring. these things don't stimulate your brain... every day its dumbing you down, and distracting you from whats really going on around you. your missing out on life.

especially our race, we always seem to focus on the irrelevant things in life. reality tv, whose got on designer clothes or not. i mean really that's shit we use to talk about when we were in high school. we grown so who gives a shit!!! ask your self something, worrying about these things help make you feel accomplished how?? *dont worry i'll wait* it doesnt!! the things that i see on facebook/twitter is pure comedy at how people take this as real life, internet beefs, subliminal tweets yet your still on each others friendslist online and hell even speaking when your out in public, and hell some cant even spell which further makes me understand somes mental capacity. smdh. how elementary does that sound. its sounds very trivial and high schoolish. i mean i even met a female that all she talked about was f/b and twitter i was like "ummmm, excuse me how old are you again??" cause this wasn't interesting AT all, and i had to give the *go i care facial expression*

is it a cry for help of loneliness or needing to feel accepted amongst the masses of people?? i mean come on alot of us add people just to be adding them and we really don't even know the person or speak too'em. to some it makes us feel important that you have that many people as your so called friends. that's why you see and hear people feel a certain kinda way when someone didn't accept their friend request or find out you been deleted. is this the new way to determine who your friends are or not now?? come on now grown ass people are we serious?? isn't there more important things in your life right now then to worry about shit like that or what someone is posting on facebook?? yes its entertaining, but learn to separate it from real life. #IJS

this is a society now where Reality tv is not even reality (maybe their own reality) an its now directed and has writers.

whats funny is that if these media outlets were to shut down this very second alot of you would be lost, may even drive yourselves crazy. which is honestly sad. i can see why young people are on it all the time they have nothing else better to do but what is the reasons grown ass people are on it, to the point where your losing sleep or cant get shit done, or accomplished cause your on these sites. come on now people, WAKE UP!!!!!!