Trix or Baller.........Its a Very Thin Line

"It aint tricking if you got it"

Hmmmmmmmm, now lemme think who in the hell came up with that saying. Im taking a shot in the dark here but maybe a trick who has money and didnt want to be called a trick. But as of lately that is all i hear, but they all call themselves ballers, or pimps. Now one if you a "PIMP" how in the hell can you trick off and you a pimp or call yourself a pimp. You like what that dude said in THE MACK (everyone must watch), you a Resthaven for hoes. Most of these dudes that I see be play pimping or part time balling, you know the ones that work mad crazy overtime and then they in the clubs buying out the bar like they Diddy.

Lets a define a trick first, A trick is someone who turns tricks, buying a female things, paying for ass, or any sexual favors and she is not your girl. A real Pimp doesnt pay for anything, he breaks his hoes, woman or whoever you would like to call them. Are you breaking hoes or are they breaking you? Most of you are getting broke and big time. When a pimp spends money its not just on her its on his investment to show off his extravagant lifestyle and to bring her in that lifestyle. A Baller like Diddy that is his job, he makes money even when he aint working, when he's done partying he still got money, hell he getting money TOO party, as oppose to you when you done you gotta worry about getting an extention from MLGW or begging for lunch for the rest of the week.

Guys this is how you know you a trix, and dont get mad @ me, get mad @ the game. Cause you playing it. If the only conversation that you get from a female that you talking to is about her bills and how she needs some money..........um you a trix. If within days or even hours (yes, some are that grimey) of her having sex with you, or giving you head she asking for some money.........Nigga you a trix. If she tell you she aint fucking with you anymore and dont call and she calls you and tells you nice things how she miss you and then in the same convo she asks for some money............then again sir i must say that you are a trick. I guarantee you that after she hangs up with you she calling you a trix not a baller.
So the next person who says that saying "IT AINT TRICKING IF YOU GOT IT"....................., KILL YO SELF 6 TIMES
Cause when you done and leave the hourly hotel that you paid for and the money that you paid her for her to fuck or give you head............when you leave; you sir are a trix!!!!

COLD BLOODED

When I Move, DONT move.............

Ok now this shit grinds the shit outta me, do people not know the 2 feet rule when standing in line???

I was @ the bank the other day and i was standing in line and this nigga was literally on my back, i mean dayum if i can smell ur breath from over my shoulder you too fucking close mayn. so im like lemme move up a lil, do you know this dude moved right with me?!?! Didnt make any sense to me. Im trying to get some space. To you all out there there is a rule of thumb when you are in line you should have @ least a 2, 3 feet(ur actual feet) between you and that person. That goes for the grocery store, retail store, or where ever you are that you have to stand in line. You dont have to stand that dayum close for fear someone gone cut in line in front of you and if you let'em you lame as hell for letting them do so.

So next time your in the bank and the person in front of you moves a few steps, IT DONT MEAN THE LINE IS MOVING NUM NUTS!!!!!!!!! Your too dayum close and he/she is trying to get some space from you. Why you gotta be so close any ways??
And to the nigga that was standing behind me........................DUDE!!!!
can we say the fresh maker??, toothpaste is not ur enemy

Whoo sah !!!!!!!!!!

Time Out is Over!!!!

So i been checking news media outlets and i been seeing all kinda things going on, Mother smothers her kids and stages a car crash, several kids rape a 2yr old girl(a 2yr old baby girl I MEAN REALLY!!!!), and a dude does a driveby on his bike that kills two 8yr old girls, excuse my language but WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YA'LL IDIOTS!!!!!!!


What is it with these parents afraid of whooping their kids?? im noticing that is the problem with these new age kids today. and its b/c the parents havent instilled fear into them, AT all. They are so caught up in wanting to be their childs friend and not wanting their child to be mad at them.......shits silly. Now you wanna try and beat'em when you get embarassed in front of your friends or out in public, that is a monster that you created now you shame. which is funny.

when i was little my mom would have to call on lord Jehovah himself in order for her to quit whooping me. lol but you know what i still remember that and things are instilled within me now. You have to whoop your kids. PERIOD!!!!!

All these crimes that we are seeing that involve kids doing them is an example of take corporal punishment outta the schools and parents not BEATING their children, these kids dont have a lick of sense, and pretty much talk and write like they retarded.

Parents are so focused on getting their child the best and spoiling them and not wanting them to grow up how they did yet they forget they aint raising and teaching them anything in the process. all ima ask is what was wrong with how you were raise if ur successful, and living pretty well and some values instilled in you why not raise ur child how you were raised, get them to learn the value of a dollar, work for the things that you want to spoil them with, cause all ya'll teaching these kids right now is that everything they want should be given to them. and when you stop they just start taking it themselves(robbing, stealing). Like i said my mom use to whoop me like a slave, and i have SOME sense, these kids that have NO DISCIPLINE now have no damn sense what so ever.

All im saying is if you got kids, you better start beating the brakes off of'em now if you aint already, cause i mean GAAAAADDD DAYUM!!!!! this is ridiculous

Why Cant it Just Be Simple??

So Real Talk Uncensored last night sparked this Blog on today.

Im wondering why do things have to be so difficult between our sexes?? Why all we do is just point the finger yet no one trys to figure out a solution? Why people say they become bored in their relationships??

Well I'll answer the last one 1st, alotta times people become bored in their relationships because mainly we don't date our "friend", if you become a friend with this person 1st you can know the in's and outs of that person. you can never be bored spending time with your friend, i don't care what you or how you look at it, your always entertained when ur spending time with ur friend. because you enjoy each others company, enjoy that persons conversation, hell you can just be sitting around the house checking each other and your enjoying your self. that relationship can never go boring.

Which brings me to how people make a relationship soooooo difficult because honestly its not that hard. We MAKE it hard.
#1. (Men/Women) Quit dating people your incompatible with yet trying to MAKE it work, because guess what ITS NOT GONNA WORK!!!!! and you've just wasted some weeks and months outta your life. Ive noticed some women fear the idea of rejection from a guy that they like, yet she's not his type or their not compatible yet since she likes him, she gonna make it work any ways, but will get mad at him when it doesn't work or says that he wasn't trying hard enough, if you don't like him for himself then guess what your not COMPATIBLE and let it go, and vise versa. Ex: Dont date a person that's VERY outgoing and your a homebody, all ur gonna do is get into arguments about wanting the other to stay at home more, it will seem cool at 1st because that person will seem exciting but if your a homebody it will eventually get tiring for you real quick. Cause every person that you like or attracted to isnt for you, once you accept that fact then your transition wont be as hard, bitter or angry.

#2: (Women) Dont talk to your man as you would ur girlfriends, a mans attention span isnt THAT long. why do you think men like action movies, its steadily catching our attention. When you hear men talk its pretty much straight to point and alotta times short convos, where as when women talk there is always the who, what, when, where, why and for how long when you all have convo's and they be for hours on end about that one subject. alotta times the guy just wants you to get to the point, its as simple as that.

#3 (Men/Women) Quit pointing the finger at the other once they bring something up about you, you make ur self look childish. Ex: GUY: "hey baby i dont like it when you do blah blah blah", Women: "Well you be doing so and so and i dont like that". All that sounds like is "well you do it too" what kids bicker about all the time, yet we say we adults. if a person brings something to ur attention HEAR that person out and LISTEN and discuss it, dont attack that person for bring something up and wanting to talk to you about it, because that person will NEVER come talk to you about anything again. especially if its about you. Once again we say we adults, then carry ur self as such, especially when its a time to be serious.

#4: (Women) Quit trying to rush into things soooo quick, and learn the idea of going with the flow of things, cause how men think is how can i jump into a relationship and i don't know if i like you or not. he don't even know if your his type to be relationship material for HIM.


Whats funny is that when ya'll will bring up well he can jump into sex w/o knowing her, but men look at sex totally different that women do. we value you our hearts more than our d**k, women hold value on her cooter, and get emotional from the act of sex at times, per the reason why alot of women try and hold out on having sex with a guy, cause you hold ur value in that. If you valued you hearts MORE you wouldnt be so quick to jump into a relationship to get it hurt again. which also leads to the reason why alot of woemn be stuck in relationships with dudes that are not good in the bed. If that is something that you like to do with ur mate then you may wanna find that out in the beginning. cause me, i'll leave a female alone if she cant kiss

Someone told me "yall know yall dont want a relationship with a woman u got easily", yet it has nothing to do with her being easy, to me it shows that she know what she wants and aint with all the games to get it. straight forward.

Men are simple, we dont like challenges too much especially when it comes to our relationships. Too challenging ='s difficult which honestly goes both ways on that one. women like men that is challenging tho, men do not and that is where yall go wrong at, cause you want to try and CHANGE him or MOLD him into something that you want. when ur not accepting him for who he is or his flaws. BTW if you talk to a dude that thinks less of you cause he got you "easily" is prolly just as more difficult than you

ya'll can be strong w/o being weak.

if you can get a man to be comfortable around you, he is all urs. cause that is all we want someone he can be comfortable around and be himself, someone he can come around to get away from the hectic day to day and if you BOTH can do that for each other then you will NEVER really have an issue. that is why alot of men want to go with the flow, that takes away the pressure, and he can see if he can see himself with you, if he can be himself, if ur relaxing to be around, if you gel with him. when you have NO EXPECTATIONS of each other you both will see the real person they are.

alotta women know tho that they fucked up(emotionally), and hate the idea that a guy they like may not like them for who they REALLY are if they are themselves. some women have been different people for so long she dont even know who she is any more. i realized that issue when i'd tell a woman that i just wanted her to be herself and i can decide from there if you are someone that i want to be with or not, they acted like i was crazy or something.

Women hold on to not doing stuff for a man because you don't wanna feel like your giving up something like cooking for him or doing nice things for him. when really a man is trying to see if that's just your nature or if its all an act. Alotta times i hate to say it but ya'll make it complicated like telling urself, "Im not gonna cook for this nigga til he take me on 3 dates", or "im not gonna ask him out til he ask me first", etc, etc.

Honestly most men don't know what we want, but we do know what we don't want.

If a man see that you NATURALLY are a certain way with things, he then looks at you a certain way, like this is JUST who she is. we don't want a woman that is just putting on to just impress us or trying to hook us then you flip back to Bonshika after you get us. Do things cause that is just who YOU are naturally, men arent as dumb as you may think we are.

We all need to put fear behind us, and just be ourselves. we all at times are our worst enemy.
why be fearful of being urself cause if being ur self didn't work out with that guy/girl then, that person wasn't for you, and if you stayed around it would NEVER be appreciated. are you really giving so much or just giving ur self #thinkaboutit

Eye Opener

It seems funny how women can have standards but apparently men can not, and when a guy applies those standards and say no ur not my type or disagrees with a women as if what she is doing is acceptable just b/c the next dude was cool with it is amazing and funny to me.

I had convo with some friends last nite and this older lady didnt want to have a convo with us at first b/c she stated that "we probably arent open minded" about the topic. which was about relationships. when in actuality it was her who didnt have the open mind and listening to her talk she sounded very bitter, i may also add that she in currently single as well. she was going in saying that majority men aint shit and have too many excuses, one being that he has been hurt and that he is getting himself together at the moment and wasnt rushing into anything. as if men trying to get over hurt is some sorta cop out or bullshit excuse. maybe if you tried it ur self...........i mean ACTUALLY tried it.....taking time out from a relationship you may be in a better position.

but i noticed the women that were talking all followed suit with the head bitter chick as if they had no mind of their owns. Ladies i will and must say this only YOU know what makes you happy, another female cant tell you that. what she wont put up with may not even bother you or be a big deal. quit letting these people plant these negative seeds in your head. how can you have a good relationship and then when ur bitter friend tell you about what she wouldnt put up with in YOUR relationship NOW you have an issue. REALLY?!?! what kinda foolery is that ?? apparently you dont have a mind of your own, and your friend validates whats good for you and not so good for you.......... and MANY times...other women secretly hate on a woman when she has a good man...and will craftily try to destroy what you have....

I also have an issue with women saying that men are full of shit or always something negative. For one i would have to say that you havent dated EVERY man, secondly if every dude that you dated aint shit guess what the aint shit common denominator is........thats right. YOU!!!! i refuse to belive that every dude you date aint shit. if you have 50/1 guess what all those dudes have in common??? You. Maybe your the problem, but lord forbid you say that, and point the finger at your self.

the other things i'd like to point out is that alotta women be talking to lames and have a history of talking to lames, yet that one guy that comes along that is real, that doesnt ACT like the lames and doesnt bend like the lames then he also is full of shit, you cant make a real ass man bend to become a lame just b/c that is what you have become accustomed to. how about you open up ur mind and bend a little your self. if the real AND the fake are all still full of shit then lady you have a issue that comes back to yourself that you have yet to figure out and you need to be by yourself.

then she also made a statement that said all this is funny was funny to her, i asked why and she said well look at the "caliber" of men that is discussing this. I will say this maybe the "caliber" of men that you dated didnt think you were of their "caliber" and this applies to all, just b/c you "self-proclaim" yourself as a certain caliber person doesnt mean you actually are. (some of you think VERY highly of yourselves and its undeserving) cause those "caliber" people will let you know or not, and pretty much if your still by yourself proves my point. some of you need to become a little more humble and be accepting of people flaws, instead of coming with a list of things that a man needs to be. if you do that then ur expecting a man to be perfect, yet your IMPERFECT, how can you ask for something that you cant even bring to the table yourself............makes alotta sense huh??? Yuuuuppppp (sarcastic)!!!!

Last but not least quit asking other women about men. can you ask Cadillac about Chevy?? so how can you ask a woman about how men operate, this makes sense also doesnt it............if you say yes.... kill yo self. if a woman is always in a unsuccessful relationship, your coming to ask her for what exactly? she has dated like 8 dudes in 8 weeks and say she loved all of them, does this sound like a person with smarts and if you listen to her your are JUST as smart as she is.............not so!! i understand ur looking for someone to FEEL sympathy for you but asking the bitter chick is a very bad idea.


If your talking to a guy and he tells you "lets just go with the flow and see where things go from there"(this guy is reluctant BUT he is willing to give YOU a shot, per the reason taking it slow) if your interested follow suit, do exactly that, nothing more. cause as soon as you try to rush things and apply pressure...especially if its early!! ur gonna watch dude flow into the opposite direction. I mean a guy has to know if he even LIKES you 1st before he thinks of relationship with you, right?? AND just b/c he wants to have sex with you doesnt mean he likes you enough to be in a relationship, he just wants to have sex with you.

Every mans goal is to have sex with you that is what physically attracts us to you. sex doesnt = relationship. sorry to tell you. now what happens during this stage is up to you honestly, cause once you start applying pressure that now you want a relationship since ya'll been having sex is only gonna leave you by yourself. but if you at least let the guy enjoy who you are then ur on the road to success. Just b/c you have some good sex doesnt mean anything what other woman DONT have good sex. what are you bring to the table cause if all your bringing is a sex AND headache, then guess what. you've guessed it............you'll be wondering what went wrong.

If you have guys that are willing to tell you trade secrets in a group setting on how men think and they aint trying to fuck you, they you need to listen. just sit an listen.

WAKE UP CALL!!!!: all of you are not relationship material for every man you talk too...........hell some of you are not relationship material period cause ur minds aint together. Just b/c YOU FEEL you could be perfect for him doesnt mean that you really are, quit forcing it and learn everyone is not for you .

Pussy is not a bargaining chip. You have to bargain with a commodity. This the EXCHANGE of goods and services. The stock exchange as reported on the ASSDAQ reports the following goods in the following order of worth: Platinum, Gold, Silver, Copper, Nickel, Pork Bellies, orange juice...THEN pussy. Next time come with a pack of bacon and some tropicana you may just get somewhere. U stay up... Lmao..



If you become angry reading this then it may apply to you and your not intune to reality, this is real shit and real talk...............you dont have to read or listen but tell me how what your currently doing is working for you, dont worry i'll wait.

The Ass-daq

women hold value in the wrong things you hold value in your "box", when that is not something a guy values at all, we like it in all but we dont value it. if there is an overflow of a certain item in a area you dont have to wait for it you can go some place else to get it. what ya'll dont realize is that a man main goal is to sleep with you.....PERIOD!!! and what happens in the process is a bonus. but his main goal was to have sex with you.

we know upon meeting you, if ur girlfriend, wifey or junt material to US when we meet you, if a guy does his homework right. so all this holding out for a certain amount of time is useless and a waste of time. cause just like a game hunter he patiently waits for the right moment to strike if that is 3 days or 3 months some will do exactly that, WAIT!!!! if that is his ONLY goal.

just like ya'll know upon meeting us if were boyfriend, husband or junt material as well, ya'll just become attached and alotta times we dont. sometimes ladies you have to think like a man in order to understand us, and not that bullshit Steve harvey trying to feed ya'll. cause your more confused than you were before.

But for the record the stock exchange as reported on the Ass- Daq reports the following goods in the following order of worth:: Platinum, Gold, Silver, Copper, Nickel, Pork bellies, Orange juice....THEN "the box".....folks gone get quiet and listen. the market is OVER flooded with the Va Jay Jay!!!

A Time to Heal??

A Time to Heal??? What?? you mean Men get hurt?? AND have to heal from it?? Get Outta here with that madness!!!!! that is how alotta women think as if its unbelievable.

i would like to know why is there such as rush on relationships and since when did there become an age bracket and timeline for such actions. men are scrutinized because he'd like to take time before he "jumps" into a relationship. half of the women that get on guys saying they are not ready for relationships are not ready themselves............but yet you want one because #1)it sounds good to be in one and #2) you can stand to be alone. so you rush a guy to be in one and neither one of you are ready for one and then you not only fuck up the dudes mind by taking him thru sum issues he has nothing to do with that you haven't gotten over but you also now fuck ur self up because you weren't ready to begin with.

Alotta women should be even happy that a guy is telling you that he is not ready for a relationship and not playing you. at least he does KNOW what he wants at the moment, but don't get mad at the guy because he is not willing to succumb into a relationship due to ur seduction.
a guy may not be ready to be BACK in a relationship cause it messed him up in the head and he needs to get over it, yet you get mad b/c he wants to get over some past issues and he doesn't want to dump those issues unto you!!!

I don't believe alotta women think men hurt, we may not display it and say it as you all but we do hurt, we understand you may want to be the one to help mend and fix our hurt but what you don't understand, we want to mend it ourselves, unlike some of you. which leads me into this alotta you want a dude to mend the previous guys mistakes and hurt he has caused you. you you really need to heal on ur own. Its like playing football for guys if i break my leg, i 1st have to wait til my leg heals then when it does im still reluctant to go back out to play for fear i may break it again, so you may play but its very gingerly and cautious, until WE feel comfortable not when YOU think we should be ready.

What happened to wanting to get to know each other, are you afraid that we(guys) aren't gonna like what we see in you??

You cant make a guy ready just because ur ready, let that man come around, quit talking about it all the time, making him feel guilty cause he associates with other women that are JUST that associates!!! when you display this action it lets us know and feel that we're not sure if ur ready ur self b/c of the insecurities that ur showing, and if your doing it NOW we can only imagine it will multiply 3 fold if we're together.

If your a good women trust me we see that and know, so you don't have to keep proclaiming from the rafters that you are, cause it wont make us come around any faster
I've noticed also that alot of women don't listen, or try to INTERPRET what he is saying when if you listened what he said is exactly that what he said and means, if a man tells you what he wants and what he is looking for at that time respect that, cause when you try to change what we say we want then it shows you don't respect us or what we want. you want what you want and that is all that matters.............alotta times its not all about you or hell even him, it maybe about how to make life better period.

Quit living in a fantasy and become a realist because everything isnt gonna go how you want it too all stories dont have happy endings but they arent bad/horrible endings either. You have to learn to adjust and if you dont adjust ur GONNA break. point blank period.

...........you have no idea about me

Ok, its Self-reflection time and ima tell on myself for a few ticks and speak on somethings that i see about myself. For me this is therapeutic and drops weight off my shoulders.

Alright here goes. i have noticed that i am terrified of being involved in another relationship b/c of the fact no one is ever comfortable with being themselves and so fronts are put up. when i think of the "title" relationship, i associate it with something negative and bad, but what i try and do now is actually get to know a person FIRST without the pursuit of a relationship in mind. which i feel should level the playing field b/c there are no REAL pressures as far as trying to impress someone b/c being ur self should be an impression enough.
I enjoy being single at the moment b/c I've never really had a point in my life to be single. I've always been in relationships, being pleasing to the person I'm in a relationship with, to the point where i lost who i was. which for whatever reason not too many can understand or better yet they don't want to. so a person trying to get something outta me that I'm not willing to give is gonna be a no win situation. and for someone to even try that makes me aware that that person is selfish and not thinking of the things that I'm currently look towards which would be me getting over certain things in life and making my self better.

I have also noticed that thru the traumatic relationships that i have been in I've noticed that i have been bitter, like the same females that get on for not getting over certain things in their lives. i don't think i am as bitter as i was but i was and can admit that, at least i can call it and identify with it and have corrected that non-sense.

I am a loner, b/c i feel NO ONE will ever understand me even if i try to explain. and am also a loner b/c friends have always seemed to be very disappointing. It also keeps me from following the crowd which at times can be very messy the crowd that is. being a loner also has helped me hone my skills as being very observant and intuitive of others


that is all for now, cant give away too much info, but at least I CAN do it. #imjustsaying

The Bad Guy

what is the real issue when i man says that he's just got out of a relationship and that he's not mentally or emotionally ready to go down that road, that the woman takes it upon her self to be the one to mend his heart, even tho he's not looking to get it mended. but when the time and attention isnt given the same the guy is the "dog" or "aint shit" or whatever else some women call men.

sometimes when a guy has gotten out of a long and draining relationship, epecially if it was emotinally draining you coming on strong and fast and being needy only pushes the guy away and limits any other time that you may have wanted or were seeking. what makes matters worse is that you make that same guy feel and look like he is the culprit and bad guy. when it actuality the culprit would be or may be you b/c you havent respected his wishes and your putting your self on him. yea he may see that your a good women in all that but all that wont change his mind b/c of what he has gone thru, and if it does then he's only doing what some women do which is substituting his hurt with ur time and attention which is never good. it becomes a respect thing and issue.

how can you get mad at a guy that you've never established a relationship with?? yes your friends, yes you spend time with other, and may even be intimate. but yet in still you have no right to get angry at a person that has laid down a foundation with you in the beginning. you can NOT force someone to be what they are not willing to be

is what that guy saying falling on deaf ears, and all the woman knows is that he's available and she see's he has potential

Memphis

Ok, Now i love my city to death, but there are things that i have to draw question too that i dont understand. Honestly it seems as if my city doesnt like to generate money. i cant grasp it. Here's what i mean.

Ok, we've had the Pyramid(soon to be like the Coliseum), Mid-South Coliseum(tumbleweeds, eye sore), Libertyland, Adventure River, Celebration Station(eye sore), Al's Golfhaven, and the Mall of Memphis(demolished) all to only shut down and close. This is getting ridiculous!!!!!!!! our kids have no real place to play or hang out, we're a basketball city but dont see any basketball courts in the parks, no theme parks, or water parks, but we're shocked that kids committing crimes and obese. ReallY???? ............an idle mind is the devil's playground

The way they have things setup kids are doomed...when I was coming up..we had Liberty land(eye sore), Mud Island(no promotion)...Adventure River(furniture place now)....Club X???(exactly).....................Hell i even had the neighborhood Community Centers to go to and had fun. WTH is going on?!?!?!? We have nothing to do but be goons and commit crimes...sad. hell you wouldnt have to worry to much about the MPD if you gave kids something to do, even if education was what its suppose to be and kids were in their books, hell they'd STILL need SOMETHING to do for fun to reward themselves, to socialize. if YOU'RE bored your mind wonders, im just saying

the city turned down the idea to turn the Pyramid and the area around it into a theme park, to wait on Bass Pro shop who signed and intent to move in 4YEARS AGO!!! and yet its 20 dayum 10 and still its unoccupied!!!!!!!!!!!! Memphis doesnt like making money APPARENTLY. I think the city needs fresh eyes, someone who isnt afraid of new and fresh ideas, someone thats NOT from Memphis. The reason why i say that is because maybe he/she wont have the Memphis mentality.................which is that Memphis is a bandwagon city, whoever or whatever is hot at the moment Memphis is on it.

A city of Cowboy and Steeler fans, Laker, Cleveland and Celtic fans, altho we have teams that we can support and claim our own(Titans, Grizzles). People come to Memphis and take our ideas and take it back to their cities and its booming and now their famous, (ie. gangsta walking, crunk music except we called it buck or getting buck) We have ppl that have to leave the city 1st in order to become famous, look at Jazzy Pha. People heard his name but he didnt become "famous" until he LEFT Memphis, i can go on and on and name people and things but you should get my drift.

We need to quit just walking around watching NOTHING happen, as if there is nothing going. and what's going on is that Memphis is becoming stagnant while other cities pass us by. if that is cool with you then you have that Memphis mentality that i am referring too, and your probably at a job for 15 years working the same position w/o trying for advancement. not saying there is anything wrong with that cause that is stability but my point is AT LEAST gun for the advancement dont just be comfortable.................and that is what our city is COMFORTABLE and we arent in a position to be comfortable. There are too many negative things going on for the city to just be comfortable and not going thru extreme measure to change it. And it actually starts by the people in the city voicing themselves, cause if the city DONT speak then the officials dont think there is a issue or problem going on, EXCEPT for crime that they cant overlook.

that is all

Dayum girl ur moving to fast

I would like to address the issue with woman wanting just JUMP into a relationship and not knowing if she even gonna like the dude or not. do you even know him, know him?? i understand you like the idea of dude and ya'll vibing in all but do you have to jump head 1st?? if a dude is TRYING to take it slow, and he lays the foundation and states that he'd like to get to know you and go with the flow of things, then do that. Dont try to WOW dude and be this kinda woman you think he looking for, like thats gone speed things up and change his mind. Because its not gonna end well. Why would you want a dude that you can manipulate like that anyways?? cause if he changes his mind that easy and dont stand for what he says then ur setting ur self up for failure later also.

Whats funny is these same women WANT to cook for dude and invite him over and sex him, guess what that is something you WANTED to do for him, but you try to blame the dude saying he mislead you, did he really??? or did he just accept what YOU gave him in the midst of taking it slow?? you try and change a dudes mind and when it doesnt work you lash out and now HE'S to blame, blame ur self cause YOU did it. its easier to blame the next person instead of looking in the mirror.

Most women have yet to master the are of truly "dating". I know chicks that meet one guy and won't go out with any other guy once they meet that guy and they KNOW he is actively and openly dating others...but they consistently give him their best hoping that when HE decideds to settle down it will be with HER...then she gets impatient and starts to pressure him into an unwanted relationship...the sad part is that all this I described usually occurs within about 30days! That's LUDICROUS!

The issue is that women are so busy trying to find Mr. Right that you are afraid not to put it all out there immediately, 100% because you want him to want you...so that's what you do...you "hear" what he says about what he's looking for, but you don't "listen" you are plotting and scheming to make him yours from the first contact! The funny thing is you may not even want him...you want the "IDEA" of him...the lie you have told yourselves about who he is...that's what you are rushing to settle down with...because you don't know enough about him to want to "settle down"... you know nothing

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Whores with Substance

I had a convo with a lady a couple days ago about what she wont do with her dude and it was a very long list and some stipulations. SMDH. Ima tell you something and ladies you can either listen or not but its like this, men like whores or a "whore type" (per the reason men cheat with what you say a hoe). you have to be willing to do those kinda things that your guy is wanting to experiece with you. which alotta women view a "whore" as a women that sleeps around with alotta guys, that is not our mentality tho. we want a women that does these things without us having to go outside the home. the only time a man will call a woman a whore is when she has cheated on us. but not if ur being a "whore" for us.

Whats funny is that you can do these SAME freaky things with a random guy. why?? because there's no emotions involved and you dont care what he thinks right?? BINGO!!!! alotta women dont do freaky shit or whore type shit with their men b/c ur afraid of what he might think of you, so you hold back or whatever, at THAT moment of the act we're(guys) not thinking anything, we're enjoying the act as should you. but we are not thinking of you negatively either after the fact either. if the guy is then your messing with a little boy and not a MAN. Quit being over analytical and enjoy ur self, if you enjoy giving head do it, suck it already and quit thinking about it. maybe thas why also you cant have an orgasm cause yo ass thinking to damn much. do you be thinking when ur playing with your self?? im sure you dont, ur enjoying the act. my point exactly. whats also funny is in the middle of the act your judging ur self MEN dont judge so why you putting so much pressure on it. Men like "whores with substance", someone who can blow their mind in the bed and also mentality (i.e. open minded and enlightening conversations, got something going for her self, and SUPPORTIVE) once you learn that your on ur way.

i only stated that b/c these wifey type women out here arent willing to do certain things, better yet i have even heard them suggest and say "i aint finnaa do that, you betta find some other chick that will!!" Really?!?! you shut ur own door on ur relationship that your man is really wanting to experience and share with you. and then you tell him to share "THAT" with someone else. smdh. sometimes its ur your own dismise in what you experience or get in a relationship. you get what you give and some of you dont really give alot. cause you cant just enjoy yourself and whats going on around you. if ur closed then that is what kinda relationship you will have CLOSED!!!!

if you wanna know about a guy listen to one!!!!! quit asking ur g/f"s or you'll stay confused

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Starting Anew

So many of us struggle with relationships and other events in life because we use so much energy to focus on the past. Women are afraid to love and men are afraid of being in love! Women are so focused on the hurt of their past until they pass the future love of their life. Letting go is a hard process that everyone experiences. We would like to believe that everyone is the same and that everyone is out to hurt us. I truly don’t believe that is the situation but it is still hard to put it to pass. We just have this natural guard up to protect our feelings and emotions at all cost. So when this one good person comes into your life you push and push and you find reasons to distance yourself away from the one that is trying to give you everything you desire. Yeah, we all get burned and some more than twice, sometimes four or five times but everything is for a reason. It is to build you up and make you stronger and the stronger you are the more control you have over your life situations. People come into our lives for seasons. Once they complete their season they have to move on. Keeping them longer than their season causes conflict and heartache. You have to learn the lessons and move on so you can make the next class. If you are late for the next class or don’t show up you cause a ripple effect in life. Now you see yourself trying to catch up with life trying to find out where you belong and who belongs to you. If you don’t see any more growth or happiness stop trying to tape that shit together when it is broken up in hundreds of pieces.

There is a thing called love out here you have to get yours. Accept it! Respect it! Love It! Open up and let the past do just what it does, pass.

Men, we have to make sure we have let the past go and cut all ties and sail off into the sunset with it. We carry some serious bullshit with us: old ass girlfriends still calling playing fucking mental games, old fuck buddies, hanging at the same old places, etc. We have to let that Middle School hurt and pain go, your ass is grown now. All females are not all about money and what they can get(but it sure is alot of them out there). Stop using excuses for not loving the woman in your life. You know like, "I can’t because I have been hurt and protecting my feelings, I’m to afraid to, I am lost". If you are lost, let you woman help guide you to the light. Learn to communicate with your woman, if you don’t know how learn how. If you have children, teach them. We need to stay together and stay strong out here; this is real. The divorce courts and lawyers make a lot of money from us because we don’t know how to communicate or get some counseling. Once you have one bad issue in the relationship, we run and snitch to the lawyers like they give a Fuck about you and your life. THEY WANT MONEY!!

Learn to love and take risks in life. Yeah, love can hurt but it can also be wonderful. Find someone that is for you and not against you; please understand we all make mistakes and shit happens.

Is this the End?!?!

This is a old blog comment that i posted to a blog that my kinfolk Davine Prodigy a.k.a @iRockDP on twitter posted "Spritual Prisoner" that i feel we all need to think about.


We're prisoners of this world and instructed on how to set our selves free. but the psycho babble that we are brainwashed with in this world makes it hard to embrace what we need to do and walk that narrow path. we all are free, its like being stuck in a jar without the lid, you see what you must do to see the bigger picture, but we are reluctant because its not the popular thing or the masses are not doing it. its not hard because ur not the only one doing it and you wont be by ur self. The path is just not walked by many. It is said in the bible that the time of the end will be when the nation is lead by an image of what we've never seen before.............................it will be lead by either a Black man(muslim) or a woman........................................think on that. Be a witness ;)

Loves me Loves me Not

I have a couple of things on my mind so I'm going to tie them in both together on this one.

Why is it there are terms for men, like Prince Charming and Knight in Shining Armour for a woman to look forward to and get swept off her feet. But what is there for men to look forward to. Men dont have anything that we can compare women to and see what we may be missing. Women have romance novels, movies.........and lord forbid LIFETIME!!! See those romantic novels and movies and etc leave a misinterpretation at times as to how a MAN should sweep you off your feet and if he doesnt do it like you have seen in the movies or read in a novel then he doesnt care about you or care for you. Just like commercials and holidays tell you that if he dont give you diamonds or some extravgant gift on Valentines Day then it doesnt say I LOVE YOU or he doesnt love like he says he do. As if love has a price, but love doesnt care about those things.
Women now a days, when you hear them talk "i need to find a man with money", nothing about someone that cares for her or respects her or will love her. Women also arent too supportive of there man, they second guess them, they are defiant, lack of respect and very selfish now. And then with the qualities that i just named get mad because she cant find a good man or her Prince charming!!! What happened to the women that catered to their man, supported his decison making with voicing suggestions, and him being the head of the household?? Now its "I wish I would run "that nigga" a bath"(after a long days work), "that nigga need to be running a bath for me", or "i make more money than him he aint the head of shit", and "i wish i would listen to that decision that nigga dumb as hell".

But whats funny to me is you'll do it with a dude that treats you like shit or you run in behind a dude that dont consider you an option, and you almost break your back to hold on to the relationship. But the guy that is there and try to have something with you and is nice to you and is a man for you, you dont want that dude, you still try and run in behind the guy that dont give you the time of day except when he wants some head or ass, and then you give it to him thinking that ya'll getting back together.

I think we all need to men and women, the wrong that has been done to us leave it in the past and move forward, that new person shouldnt have to be responsible for someone elses mistakes before him/her and if you cant leave it be then you shouldnt be trying to get in a relationship with someone new, state what you want in the beginning. If you want just sex, state that, dont have a dude thinking that you want something more and you dont, and vise versa. and women if you meet a guy and he tells you that he is just dating or not looking for a relationship @ the moment dont think that your pussy has some kind of mind altering ability and you can chnage his mind because in the end you gone be left looking stupid and you gone hear these words that I know you have................."I told you I wasnt looking for a relationship @ the moment so why you acting brand new".


Books and movies are fiction just like you tell you kids "its only a movie", this is real life here. Dont have a movie or book tell you what you like or shouldnt like, all men/women arent going to be the same so dont try and make them be like the last good guy that you were with, because in the end it'll be a waste of time.

Get Money

Why is it that when you ask people about money or let you in on how they making money or whatever, they act as if they the only ones making money and its some Classified G-14 shit.
Ima put it like this folk somebody came to you about and idea, or let you in on a secret or hell; you fucking asked'em how, but ima tell you we as black people(and white) act so stupid or dumb when it comes to money, like i said ...........you the only ones making it. when i was or be doing my thing, hell i let you know what im doing, and see if you wanna be involved, ya dig. Its not like someone asking you for money and thats how some of you be acting as if someone has come to you and said can i have $500, have we come to the day and age where we dont share ideas or are people so afraid that the next person is or may do it better than you or make more money than what you are doing?? Who gives a shit!!!! Thats why you have networking, if that person did something better and made a better turn guess who they gone share that info with??? the person that got them on in the 1st place.

I have always had the mentality ima share the wealth and ima tell you how you to can get on or can make that money, what point do i have in keeping you broke, or in the gutter................ none whatsoever. So get ya money people, get ya weight up.............and if somebody wanna grind like you or get money like you or that have that same hustle as you, shit why not give that helping hand, cause i know if i see ya getting money ima ask ya...........im the new age Cookie Monster............................MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY

Ya DIG!!!!!