what is the real issue when i man says that he's just got out of a relationship and that he's not mentally or emotionally ready to go down that road, that the woman takes it upon her self to be the one to mend his heart, even tho he's not looking to get it mended. but when the time and attention isnt given the same the guy is the "dog" or "aint shit" or whatever else some women call men.
sometimes when a guy has gotten out of a long and draining relationship, epecially if it was emotinally draining you coming on strong and fast and being needy only pushes the guy away and limits any other time that you may have wanted or were seeking. what makes matters worse is that you make that same guy feel and look like he is the culprit and bad guy. when it actuality the culprit would be or may be you b/c you havent respected his wishes and your putting your self on him. yea he may see that your a good women in all that but all that wont change his mind b/c of what he has gone thru, and if it does then he's only doing what some women do which is substituting his hurt with ur time and attention which is never good. it becomes a respect thing and issue.
how can you get mad at a guy that you've never established a relationship with?? yes your friends, yes you spend time with other, and may even be intimate. but yet in still you have no right to get angry at a person that has laid down a foundation with you in the beginning. you can NOT force someone to be what they are not willing to be
is what that guy saying falling on deaf ears, and all the woman knows is that he's available and she see's he has potential
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