Versus

*Disclaimer this blog is not about hating women or bashing it's to open some insight as to understand how men feel* 

Ok, now the issue and problem in this man woman relationship is this, and this is what i have noticed, seen in movies, and my own experience. men have to be almost everything to a women in hopes of #1 the vagina, and #2 a relationship if he wants that. men have to be a good lover, decent money, drive a nice car, decent clothes, be funny, be everything for you. resentment comes in to play tho is where a guy is suppose to love you like you love him and you've done nothing to lovable for him, and whats crazy alotta women will say "oh yes i do or have" but ask your self according to who?? you or him?? his definition of love is and may be different from yours, so your doing something lovable is according to you not him. Men become to know about women, yet women don't learn anything about men, cause you really feel you don't need too. if you did for one men wouldn't get crappy gifts if you really knew your man. most women get their dudes what they want to see him in, not what he'll really like, its what YOU like, not what he'll appreciate how can he appreciate something that he doesn't like....... see the resentment. yet most men will get exactly what a woman likes and ask for or even heard them talking about. like purses, shoes, etc.

Like a female friend asked me what should she get her dude for his birthday?? this is problem #1, how can you not KNOW what to get your dude for his bday!!!! its your dude apparently you don't pay attention to him if you have to ask that. I asked her does he like video games?? she said yea, well get him the new Madden when it comes out, you know what she said?? "i ain't spending my money on no damn video games!!!" do you think men really wanna spend money on a $200 purse?? Ummmm, NO!!!! yet you'll spend some money on something that YOU like for him only to sit up in the closet.

its like the pretty girl who never really develops a personality cause she's been told she's pretty all her life so she's been able to get away with that

Men resent now the bullshit he has to go thru just to get certain things from you, yet you expect get everything from us 

now this is not being said out of bitterness or anything like that, just saying that women should start bringing more to the table, that men appreciate, not what you think is appreciate-able to you. because in order for the relationship or vibe or connection to work he has to appreciate the things about you also, not just what you think he'll appreciate 

cause as i said when women have been told they are pretty for so long they feel like they don't have to do anything, just sit there and be cute and pretty and dude should be happy that he is able to inhale the same air as you. after awhile there is a arrogance that you begin to have that says he should be happy I'm even with him............ to be loved you have to be lovable to him as well. Think about it.