I would like to address the issue with woman wanting just JUMP into a relationship and not knowing if she even gonna like the dude or not. do you even know him, know him?? i understand you like the idea of dude and ya'll vibing in all but do you have to jump head 1st?? if a dude is TRYING to take it slow, and he lays the foundation and states that he'd like to get to know you and go with the flow of things, then do that. Dont try to WOW dude and be this kinda woman you think he looking for, like thats gone speed things up and change his mind. Because its not gonna end well. Why would you want a dude that you can manipulate like that anyways?? cause if he changes his mind that easy and dont stand for what he says then ur setting ur self up for failure later also.
Whats funny is these same women WANT to cook for dude and invite him over and sex him, guess what that is something you WANTED to do for him, but you try to blame the dude saying he mislead you, did he really??? or did he just accept what YOU gave him in the midst of taking it slow?? you try and change a dudes mind and when it doesnt work you lash out and now HE'S to blame, blame ur self cause YOU did it. its easier to blame the next person instead of looking in the mirror.
Most women have yet to master the are of truly "dating". I know chicks that meet one guy and won't go out with any other guy once they meet that guy and they KNOW he is actively and openly dating others...but they consistently give him their best hoping that when HE decideds to settle down it will be with HER...then she gets impatient and starts to pressure him into an unwanted relationship...the sad part is that all this I described usually occurs within about 30days! That's LUDICROUS!
The issue is that women are so busy trying to find Mr. Right that you are afraid not to put it all out there immediately, 100% because you want him to want you...so that's what you do...you "hear" what he says about what he's looking for, but you don't "listen" you are plotting and scheming to make him yours from the first contact! The funny thing is you may not even want him...you want the "IDEA" of him...the lie you have told yourselves about who he is...that's what you are rushing to settle down with...because you don't know enough about him to want to "settle down"... you know nothing
that is all
btw quit trying to figure out if this is personally directed(ITS NOT!!!) and take it for what it is an actually message to open ur eyes and reflect #thatisall
ReplyDeleteIm thinking on this one J...good one though!
ReplyDeleteI have to say I agree with you on this one. A lot of times we as women get our hearts and minds so set on what we think things would be like with a certain person without truely knowing who that person is, and then after we get it we decide we dont want it and cant figure out how to get out of it. A lot of women wont admit to that but its definitely true. Quite often we as women feel that if we do all the things that this man "says" he likes he will change his mind about wanting a relationship. Its very rare that you will find a man that will be honest about not wanting a relationship a lot of them will just let you think what you want to think!!! However, there is something else that we as women (and I say we, which means myself included) need to realize. When a man says he doesnt want a relationship he is not being completely honest. Every man wants his own woman!! He wants that security blanket, that feeling that someone is standing behind him no matter what. But we as women have to come to grips with the unspoken truth: he wants a relationship, HE JUST DOESNT WANT ONE WITH YOU!!!!!! Thats a hard pill to swallow but its true. Again I say J, I agree with you on this one, and I feel like this is something that WE as women need to accept. Its nothing person towards that woman, everyone is entitled to have a preference or idea of what they want so you can either choose to recognize, accept, and deal with it or keep it pushing cuz one thing she wont be able to do is change it!!
ReplyDeleteI have been guilty of this ....that's all! :-)
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